Sunday, November 13, 2011

Somizi's Frail Look Makes The Front Page

Finally the story that's been brewing on the net makes the front page of tabloid papers. The murmur around Somizi's health has been going on for quiet sometime now. Personally having seen SomGaga I wondered why he'd agree to do the Feather Awards performance when there's all this talk about how frail he looks. I just figured he will just be fueling fire. Lo and behold, that's exactly what's happening now. 


Sunday Sun ran this story on its front page today:
By PRINCE CHAUKE AND MASHOTO LEKGAU 
Somizi at Feather Awards 2011
HIS shrinking figure has sparked worries for his health among his fans. 
And Somizi Mhlongo’s appearance at this week’s Feather Awards in Joburg only made fans fear the worst. 
He left immediately after his performance, and has since refused to explain his big weight loss – making only the comment: “Karma is a bitch.” 
But now controversial TV prophet Mboro has boldly declared that he can “heal” the popular entertainer! 
“If he comes to me, I can help him,” said Mboro. 
Concerns for “Madame Gigi” burst into the open this week when our sister paper Daily Sun published shocking pictures of Somizi (39) looking sad and painfully thin, which have been passing around on the internet. 
SunReaders have since inundated us with calls expressing concern about the star.
Is he on a crazy diet? Is he diabetic? some asked. 
Mboro – real name Paseka Motshweneng – runs a church with thousands of followers around Mzansi. 
His healing methods involve water and Vaseline. 
He also has a show on Soweto TV dubbed Incredible Happenings. 
Speaking to the People’s Paper yesterday, Mboro said: 
“I can heal Somizi, if he comes to me and opens up. 
“It’s not only me but God who heals. People get healing by just being in that atmosphere. 
I don’t have a set way. You can’t treat everybody the same because people have different problems. When you pray for someone, you have to feel for that person.” 
Said Mboro: 
“Somizi can come to my church. It’s in Katlehong near the first bridge. That’s where I’m based. 
Some people even get healed before they get there. Just by saying Mboro, you can get healed."
“I think if he can come, we can see how we can assist him. God is the one who is in charge. 
“It’s a complex issue. Someone who is not spiritual will not understand it.” 
After news of Somizi’s shrinking condition, social network sites were also abuzz. Here are some tweets: 
* Somizi lo? RT @Peekkay: Uyahamba lomuntu RT.
* Photoset: Is all still well with #Somizi – I am very worried
* Amsekho RT @wendzthabz: Somizi useyasabisa ke manje.
* Vele. He used to have a hot body. RT @wendzthabz: Somizi useyasabisa ke manje. 
Other religious leaders were also offering to help. 
Pastor Masibulele “Hawk” Makepula said: 
“I’ve read about him in the past. I can only help him if he discloses what is happening to him.” 
And celebrity pastor Agrippa Khathide, who runs a successful church in Mzansi, said: 
“He may need spiritual help. He should first acknowledge that he needs help, which would be positive for him. Then he must seek it.” 
But on Friday Madame Gigi was adamant. 
He said: 
“I don’t care what people say. All I can say is that Karma is a bitch. Those who speculate should consider how they would feel if it was someone close to them that was sick.”
 End

After reading the article, I instantly went back to my initial thought about his Feather Awards appearance. Surely, he must have known that there will be a lot of BS being said about him post the show. Though he is reported to have left the event just after he performed, it still did not stop the influx of shock and rumours surrounding his health.

Somizi is famous for having the "I don't give a f**k what you say or think about me" attitude which I have always admired him for. There are a lot of things about him that I do not agree with but as a young boy who saw another boy at 13 and knew he could never feel the same way about a girl, I have always admired Somz for helping that boy know that it is ok.

That boy today has thousands of people who read his opinions pieces, watch his clips and value what he has to say. He can do all that without having to hide the fact that he has a boyfriend instead of a girlfriend. I would not be this person today had people like Somizi not opened the door for tolerance and self-acceptance.

With that, I find it hard to just watch him go through this and not comment on it. I think Somz should take a break from the public eye for a while. He needs to step back and deal with whatever he is going through away from the glare of the media. I know he has bills to pay and might be needing the income but I can't imagine how all these negative publicity and probing into something that is clearly personal could be doing to his spirit.


"I don't care" attitude is all good and well when you dealing with trivial matters but when you are alone it always hits home. Somizi is human and I do not believe that all this stories are not affecting him. If he is indeed sick, then this can not be helping him heal. It could actually exacerbate his situation.

Another question I asked myself was; why would he allow anybody to take pictures of him, knowing very well that they might end up online? The picture {right} was taken in the dressing room so clearly whoever took it has to be someone that Somizi knows well as he looks relaxed. Who is that person and why would he betray Somz like that by leaking the picture?

Anyway, I hope SomGaGa can overcome all this negativity. In the meantime one can only wish him all the best in braving the storm that the Sunday Sun article will more than likely stir up.

Be brave brother, we are never given more than we can handle! You can rise above this, you've done it before!


Maya Angelou wrote:

You may write me down in history 
With your bitter, twisted lies, 
You may trod me in the very dirt 
But still, like dust, 
I'll rise. 

 Does my sassiness upset you? 
Why are you beset with gloom? 
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells 
Pumping in my living room. 
 Just like moons and like suns, 
With the certainty of tides, 
Just like hopes springing high, 
Still I'll rise. 

 Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes? 
Shoulders falling down like teardrops, 
Weakened by my soulful cries? 

 Does my haughtiness offend you?
 Don't you take it awful hard 
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
 Diggin' in my own backyard. 
 You may shoot me with your words, 
You may cut me with your eyes, 
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
 But still, like air, I'll rise.
 Does my sexiness upset you? 
Does it come as a surprise 
That I dance like I've got diamonds 
At the meeting of my thighs? 
 Out of the huts of history's shame 
I rise 

Up from a past that's rooted in pain 
I rise I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide, 
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide. 
 Leaving behind nights of terror and fear 
I rise 
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
 I rise 
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, 
I am the dream and the hope of the slave. 
I rise I rise I rise.

16 comments:

Phika said...

Oh,well
...uphapha gqith wethu and naye kudala wagezela banye abantu!!

Fedup With Fakes said...

Hi Phil. This is a well balanced article. Great job man. Im a big fan of your work.

Now about Somizi. Magogo is talking about "karma is a bitch". Guess what, Somizi, this is exactly karma working against you. You have always been arogant and rubbing your money in people's faces. How many boys have you slept with promising them the world? One of them even stole your car. You and your crew, Rupert, Tsalo, Tom, Dumi Gwebu are famous for using your schleb status to get sex. YOu guys have been using boys and bragging about it. Sorry papa but the Karma is on you. Since Tsalo is known to be HIV+ and now you are dying infront of the whole country's eyes, I wonder what the rest of the crew is thinking. I hope they get tested too.

What you should be doing is admiting that you messed up and ask for forgiveness from God and all the other kids who's life is destroyed because of you. I know this is hush but we should be honest and stop dancing around the truth. Gays in Jhb are not surprised to see you like this. Your situation since you are in bthe spotlight should be a warning to all this young gays who think they are special if the sleep with all you famous gays.

Phil i like that article you wrote "Life on the Fag Lane". Somizi should read it and tell all his victims to read it too. What is happening to him has been happening to a lot of gays in Gauteng, it's just that he is famous. Gays are dying chasing the glamorous life that people like Somizi promote. Maybe now the can see the end result of it.

Thank you Phil for opening our eyes with your honest articles about gay life in GP. You have safely a lot of life. I'm proud of you. People like you should be the true rolemodels in this industry not boSomizi. If anybody had revealed the things that Somizi did people would have said you jealous. Now, look at him. Atleast they can see for themselves now. You can't use people and not get punished for it.

Phil Mphela said...

Fedup, I wanted to delete your comment because you used names of people who have nothing to do with this article. However I think the points you raise deserve acknowledgement. If what you stated is indeed true then it would be disingenuous of me to delete you comment.

From reading your comment I get the feeling that you are angry. But do you think even if Somizi had done bad things in the past, he deserves to be chastised like that? I think not. You do not kick a man when he is down. That is a cowardice thing. Thus far Somz has not disclosed what the reason behind his frailness is. I think we should refrain from making malicious unfounded speculation about it. Let's wait for him to "confess" his sins before you judge him.

I do agree with you that there are some big lessons to learn from SomGaga's story. Be it positive or negative. I have never been a fan of Somizi's DIVO persona but that had no bearing on my admiring his work and career. So the lesson for me personally would be never flaunt my successes as the line between blunt and arrogant is way too thin and gets blurred frequently.

Anonymous said...

Joh Fedup o fedup ne? what did Somizi do to you? Did you sleep with him without protection? Go get tested broer. Lenna I agree gore Somizi should not be talking about Karma. Please post a link to the Fag lane article

Phil Mphela said...

http://philmphela.blogspot.com/2010/07/life-on-fag-lane-such-drab.html

In future, if you looking for an article just go to "LABELS" and click on the name or word that may be associated with the article you looking for. E.g Life On A Fag Lane would most likely be associated with "gay" so click on "gay' and you will get all the articles that has that word. It will be easier to find the article that way as it narrows down the search.

Anonymous said...

Phil,you have done a great work on your blog since its inception. It shows that your investing a lot of time and resources. You are setting a standard very high bro.

Well it goes without saying Somizi situation is very sad irrespective of weather one agrees or disagrees with some of the things he has done in the past.Having said that who are we to judge?? Some of probabaly did far worse things is just so that we are not famous and our deeds are not newsworthy. At the end of the Day whatever he did was not illegal,albeit with some personal repurcussions to him and those close to him,as humans it is not a justification to celebrate someones misfortunes.

As a straight guy not that is relevant to mention that, I respect him for the kind of person he is and the way he has fought to highlight the plight of gay people,is people like him that today we have more people coming out of the closest than commiting suicides in the fear that society will not accept them.

Over the above he is multi talented and a great entertainer and for me that is the most important thing,not his sexual oritantion or preferences hence I will feel sad about his current state.

Phil Mphela said...

Thank you so much Anonymous. It makes it easier to invest one's energy and resources into something when thay love doing it. I love this industry, I am very opinionated and enjoy engaging in meaningful dialogue and debate with like-minded people.

The Somizi situation is indeed a precarious one. We have to understand that not everyone is a fan so we ought to expect that some people will not be supportive. He is a strong guy and he will bounce back out of this.

ME said...

The Somizi matter is a sensitive considering that we live in this precarious world. Even the kindest, wisest and modest person cannot be expected to know what tomorrow brings for them.

Somizi is a true entertainer, he has talent and to see a young black artist like him being in this vulnerable situation breaks my heart. YES! he has come across as being arrogant and to be honest...he was being honest about his success.

Society dictates to us how we should behave...if you have money then be modest. Come now, how many times have acted all modest when inside we were saying 'check me out' and if you dont then you are bloody jealous. I dont condone his behaviour all I'm saying dont judge him especially now that he is not well.

How many times have we fallen short in terms of being upholding responsible young adults and yet we can now condemn.

Now I think it is a time to celebrate his work especially at a time like this...wish him and acknowledge the rare talent he has displayed for us. People we all have things we want to take back and cringe when we think of them...and I think that is Somizi's issue not ours and not our place to tell him what to do right now.

Lets appreciate him and look beyond his mistakes..well that is what real love does!

I truly hope he finds whatever he is missing in his life and also cherishes all that he has found in his life.

Anonymous said...

In perhaps, one of his most moving poems, the African American gay poet Carl Phillips very movingly details the fall of a Draq Queen though illness. The poem is titled "Our Lady", and forms the series of poems published in his book Cortege:

Our Lady

in the final hour, our lady - Of
the electric rosary, Of the highway,
by then Of the snows mostly - was

the man he'd always been really,
though, yes, we'd sometimes forgotten.
Still, even while he lay fanning

as one might any spent flame, where
it was hot, between his legs, and
saying it didn't much matter anymore

about dying, what came of having
come too often, perhaps to what in
the end had fallen short of divine

always, he said that more than the
bare-chested dancers and all-conquering
bass-line that had marked his every

sudden, strobe-lit appearance, at
precisely the same moment, in all of
the city's best clubs; more than

the just-heated towels and the water
he'd called holy in those windowless
too thinly-walled, now all but

abandoned bath-houses, he regretted
the fine gowns that he'd made, just
by wearing them, famous; and then,

half, it seemed, to remind us,half
himself, he recreated the old shrug,
slowly rising from his hospital

robe - not green, he insisted, but
two shades, maybe three, shy of
turquoise - one shoulder to show

the words still tattooed there:
Adore me; for the moment, it was
possible to see it, the once

extraordinary beauty, the heated
grace for which we'd all of us,
once, so eagerly sought him.

Phil Mphela said...

Thanks for the poem. I will checkout the Poet.

Anonymous said...

Phil please delete Fedup comment. its not right to use people's names like that and its rude. How can he be so heartless to Somizi?

Anonymous said...

Haai usomigaga haibo

Anonymous said...

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." - 1 John 1:9

In life we will face trials and discouragement of many kinds.

It is in believing in those things we hope to change for our circumstances, as we gain faith. by Nkosinathi

Change is inevitable. Keep your visions ahead of you, focus on the positive, chase your dreams and become the person you want to be.

For in everything, by all that is possible, remain true to yourself and never give up. Inspiration is everywhere you look.

Do your best and leave the rest to God. For His promise still rings true, He wants the best for you. Things happen for a reason, not by chance.

In all circumstances, praise Him, seek Him, and place your trust in Him. For what is impossible with man is possible with God.

Somizi is no different he is the son of God like the rest of us. we cannot judge because we also have our own flaws. no one deserves to die. we must celebrate the life of Somizi because he has inspired alot of people regardless of his life style. God is God of second chances. he will never give up on Somizi. you are the best Phil i like your work. fedup life is a circle imini iyeza nakuwe.

concerned said...

I don't SOMGAGA needs to disclose to us whats eating him, i suggest he gets help 'n bounce back is not the end of the world, ther's lots of qualified people he can talk to he doensnt owe us any explanation. WISHING U SPEEDY RECOVERY, 'n you Phil big up

Anonymous said...

Today is ethical ill, isn't it?

Philani aka PK said...

Phil I wanna respond @Phika-Yoh this is a very sensitive issue or case,what ever that he might be going through we need to support one another but Phika's Comment is good by influenced by bitterness over Somizi and you know I happen to know almost all the people Phika quotes there it's not good to mention names of individuals in such issues.
There is a saying that says in Zulu"Kusasa kuyizolo" years down the line it would be Phika shrinking too and would expect sympathy from others.

As for using boys I againfeel He never forced anyone these boys had a choice of not agreeing to sleep with Somizi's crew but they chose to for the love of money so be it.These are not things that should be held against people when they are facing difficulties healthwise in life.
In Conclusion Phika is bitter and Mean about all this,let me tell you story I first saw Madam Somz at the Kruger Int Airport last year and I felt very sorry and bad about it from a caring perspective and wished i could do something or have something to say,I had so many of my friends in Soweto who happened to go through the same path and i made sense to them and tey recovered because they realised we cared but why are we then killing Usomizi bethuna hhay South africans umona uyasibulala that means we have been envying uGogo for what he had mos and that's the reason we are now celebrating his down fall.

I was happy to meet him again a bit better and I really said God above hear our prayers I did pray on his behalf that he recovers so that izitha zakhe ezifana noPhika zizolayeka!!!!

I would not diagonise him but what ever he had sisifo sethu sonke and sisithola ngento esiyithanda sonke!!!!!Again there is a saying that says"Inqeba lendoda kalihlekwa"

Ngiyaphela lapho uMadam Gigi is not my friend but nje generaly we must learn to have ways of approaching situations and think for the next person on what effect would our statements have.